If you want to “resign quietly”, I urge you to “really resign”. Not just for yourself, but for the benefit of your colleagues and all those who depend on your work.
After reading numerous articles on this phenomenon of silent abandonment (including one by a “millennium teacher” in Business Intern) and seeing a series of author books coming up with new guides on how to do it, I’m tired of this feel-good gimmick that prioritizes indifference over meaningful, courageous action: people who carry on their work, receive their wages, but who disengage mentally and emotionally from their work. This emotional withdrawal is different from setting boundaries between work and private life, which is smart and necessary.
Quitting quietly is not a generational thing, I’m sure. Millennials, in their mid-thirties, are working extraordinarily hard to support their aspirations to a sustainable career, to owning a home, to achieving financial security. They are also a generation that has seen the possibilities of multiple roles and careers over their lifetime rather than being hitched to one job for life.
So move roles or jobs. Silent surrender is a new absurd marketing concept, akin to yoga with goats or primal screams. He sells books and seminars but has no place in reality.
Many people work in jobs that require tremendous passion, energy, and commitment far beyond what their take-home pay warrants (social workers, social workers, disabled workers among them) and the ability to emotionally check in and go about their business. to their tasks without investment is just not an option.
If one of these essential workers were to quit, not only would their clients feel a lack of commitment and integrity, but their colleagues would inevitably wonder why they were taking over. As one manager recently revealed to me, he works a standard 11-hour day, available to his team members whenever they need guidance or support. The thought of one of them becoming emotionally uninterested and losing interest would inevitably place a burden on their co-workers. Worse, it could drag the whole operation into a quagmire of mediocrity.
It is a selfish concept. At the same time, it undermines any potential to find joy and true purpose in your work.
As a freelance journalist, I spend a lot of time on edge, wondering if I’ll ever work again, but I chose this job. That’s what I like. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t. If I wanted to check mentally, I would get a job where no one needed my intellect, my energy, or my emotional investment.